I say or hear the word “lover” and I can’t help but crack a smile.

There are many words that get our blood boiling, most of them being offensive. In this case, I am thinking more along the lines of words that get blood boiling in a good way.

Now, no need to cover the youngsters’ eyes: there are so many sexy words that can be used in everyday speech. These words evoke a deep feeling, making one feel sexy. Feeling sexy is half the battle when it comes to being confident with your sexuality. Okay, I am starting to sound like a psychology book.

Allow me to define some examples:

I adore the word “lover.” It is so much more intimate and classy than “f--k buddy” or “booty-call.” I say or hear the word “lover” and I can’t help but crack a smile. I immediately feel a sexual power surging through my mind and body.

“Lover” can describe someone that you are just having casual sex with (I just wrote a kick-ass poem called “Casual Lover”) or you can use the term to describe your partner of 50 years. The versatility of the term enhances its sexiness.

I have a couple of old lovers (there it is) who call me “Doll.” This may sound misogynistic or demeaning, and perhaps the feminist in me should be offended, but I still love it.

Maybe I appreciate the fact that I get to feel pretty and delicate for just a moment in a busy life full of being a hard-ass. Perhaps I just love the old-school style it represents. It takes me into a world where curvy was beautiful, plastic surgery wasn’t much of an option and women were allowed to wear skirts without a reason. (I don’t mean jean mini-skirts, either.)

I appreciate the simplicity of feeling feminine in the way this word makes me feel. Should I be offended? Hell no. Unless they mean it in a bad way, which I am sure they don’t, I will continue to love being called “Doll.”

“Making out” is an amazing phrase when it’s referring to adult sexual behavior. Talk of “making out” by teenagers is annoying. Coming from my friends, this phrase is cute and sexy. “Making out” is not only a fun term (especially for Mad-Libs), but also a great pastime.

Sometimes it’s nice to go back to a time when life was simpler, a time when we didn’t have to worry about whether he’d call or whether that night of fun will have its consequences. With the right person, I could “make out” for hours, then talk to my friends about it for hours more.

“Smooth” is another word that has sensual connotations, at least for me. I think “smooth skin” when I hear “smooth.” Everyone I know loves the feel of skin-to-skin contact, even if it is as innocent as a hug with bare arms. The word “smooth” reminds me of that feeling, the feeling of skin on skin.

Perhaps it is a hand running across your stomach as it wraps around you, maybe lips on a collarbone or even just legs rubbing against each other when two people sit too close. “Smooth” is one of my favorite terms because of what comes to mind.

There are so many sexy words out there that most of us don’t think of day to day. The words don’t have to be dirty; it’s the way one uses them that brings out their sensuality. I love feeling the way that a little sexy talk can make me feel. So, goodbye for now, lover.

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