I donâ??t go to Nomad nearly as much as I used to because I know my ex-boyfriend still hangs out there occasionally.

There are times in our lives when we simply cannot go to our tried and true hangouts anymore.

These circumstances usually involve any one of the following: exes, arguments with friends, a new bartender, a new crowd or making a fool of yourself in front of everyone there.

For one or more of these reasons, I have had to cease going to many bars in our fair city. Don“t get me wrong, I could probably go to any of these bars and still have a decent time, but there is a good chance that I will make a horrible decision throughout the course of the evening.

I haven“t gone to Eastsider in years because of the new bar staff. I used to love going there until a few years ago. The staff was replaced by a much younger group and it made a big difference in my comfort level.

None of my old clique hangs out there anymore. The crowd and the bartenders seem to be getting younger every year. (It is possible that we are just getting older.)

I don“t go to Treats anymore (now it“s called something else) because my old roommate/friend works there, or at least he did at last check. He owes me a ridiculous amount of money that I am never going to see. I just have no desire to see him ever again unless he has $700 on hand for me.

I don“t go to Nomad nearly as much as I used to because I know my ex-boyfriend still hangs out there occasionally. We used to go there together, and I truly believe that I should have gotten that bar in the breakup.

Every time I have seen him there I get resentful of the fact that he is ruining a bar that I have had so many good times in. I still go occasionally, but now I usually wait until after his bedtime.

Recently, I have been hanging out at Up and Under, and I really like it there. Not only do they have great live music, but free pool some days, great liquor specials and video game bowling. Sundays have been my favorite days to go there. Two Cocksmiths do an acoustic show, there are Jameson shot deals, and the atmosphere is a lot of fun.

I am now relinquishing Up and Under as well. I will certainly miss it, but after getting drunk on Jameson and expressing my emotions to quite a few people, I will not be returning.

I spent all week after the incident trying to fix things. I made my apologies for being drunk and obnoxious to quite a few people. I even elaborated and explained my declaration of severe like to the guy who is the object of my affection.

I haven“t heard from anyone who I apologized to besides the bartender. Even he seemed to hold contempt for me when I got his text. It“s not like I started a fight, started crying or broke anything, I simply told the guy I liked the truth. I admit, I did drag other people into my business, but I apologized for that.

The guy I confessed my adoration for and I have been friends for awhile, and the thing that is bothering me the most about this is that he hasn“t said a word to me or messaged me back since the incident. I deleted him from my MySpace friends list and from my phone, so I won“t be tempted to ask the question I so want to ask: WTF?

Along with ridding my files of his contact information, I am conceding my favorite bar. I will no longer be a customer at the Up and Under. Now comes the difficult part, I need to find a new bar to hang out at on my only night out.

I guess there is always HiHat. Looks like that“s where you will find me from now on.

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