Dear Anna,

I like a girl and don't know how to tell her. I'm used to dating girls that I have very little in common with, girls who I know I won't be with for more than a couple of months. It’s different with this new girl. We have everything in common, and hanging out with her is ridiculously fun. We've made plans to see each other everyday since we met. I've never really tried to notice if a girl cared for me, I just assumed they didn't. So now that it matters, I can't tell. How do I know if she feels the same way I do, and how do I approach asking out the coolest girl I will ever meet?

Thanks for your help, Lost

Dear Lost,

I’m starting to find this funny that guys more than girls are writing in to my “women’s issues” column. But when you really look at it, one of the biggest issues for women is guy problems.

Everywhere you go, you’ll hear girls talking about their “guy problems.” I guess it’s really a good thing that guys are writing in because in the long run, guys who ask questions about how to do positive things within their relationships are preventing “women’s issues” from happening. Men who read this and write in, I applaud you.

Now, to answer your question…

I’m really happy that you found a girl you actually care about. It doesn’t sound like you’re having problems attracting or talking to her, especially if you make plans to see her everyday. You like her enough to write in asking what to do. I’m sure she likes you because if she didn’t, she would find ways not to see you.

She answers her phone when you call, right? You make plans to see each other, right? You hang out for awhile, right? Does her face kind of light up when you walk in the room?

Think of how you act around her … she might be acting in a similar manner and not even know it. She’s probably thinking the same things you are and is just waiting for you to ask her out.

So ask her on a real date, a nice dinner or something, or better yet, make her dinner — plan it out.

My boyfriend didn’t play games; he whipped out his cell phone, asked for my number and whether or not I wanted to get dinner with him. I found his forwardness attractive.

Here’s an easy way to ask her out if you’re not as forward: show her this article and see what she has to say. Don’t be embarrassed about it either because if you do end up in a relationship with her, all the info about your past relationships will come out in the long run anyways, so it made it that much easier.

I wish you good luck, Anna

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