When stress piles up and every second of your time is taken up by school, work or worrying about school and work, certain parts of your life pay the price.

When we have no spare time for a social life or the energy to meet new people, and all of our booty calls have disappeared or are no longer appealing, one certain activity seems to disappear by the wayside.

Even people I know who are in relationships have told me that the sex has been waning recently. Is it the weather, the midterms, politics?

How are we supposed to fix the problem of not having sex when much of the time we are too busy to wonder why we aren’t getting any? Better yet, how badly do our bodies and minds need sex to function?

I found out recently after weeks of not getting laid that my stress level pays the price when I am orgasm-less for any length of time.

I was having a particularly difficult and busy week at work and had a paper due in every one of my classes. My friends were stressed, my family was busy and I had no outlet for my frustration or time to take a “hands-on” approach to the problem.

I was getting the minimum amount of sleep I can live on when my body and my unconscious reinforced my belief that sex is very important for one’s physical and mental health.

I woke up one night from a dead sleep gasping, slightly sweating and flushed. No, it wasn’t a nightmare; I had woken up in the middle of an orgasm. I smiled to myself and went back to sleep.

When I woke up in the morning, I was cheerful, awake and ready to conquer the world. It took me a few moments to figure out why I was so relaxed in the midst of so much pressure.

When I remembered, I laughed out loud. At 24 years old, I had had my first wet dream! I don’t remember what my dream was about, who was in it or even if it was sexual, but I do remember the aftermath of the mind-blowing orgasm I had while sleeping.

Did I have a breakthrough? Have I achieved an amazing time-saving level of masturbation where I don’t even have to be conscious, and yet still get the benefits? I may have found the secret to happiness hidden in my mind and my willingness to feel myself up. I am definitely OK with this.

I have spoken to a couple of my friends, and they too have woken up having an orgasm. Maybe this isn’t so rare, but instead something that happens when your body gives up on you ever having sex with another person again.

That may sound depressing, but it just shows that your body will take care of your needs as much as possible, and sometimes it takes care of your wants as well.

All in all, what this little anecdote proves to me is that sexual release is not a luxury but instead something much more important for one’s happiness and health. If I am doing it in my sleep, my friends are doing it in their sleep, my friends’ ex-lovers are doing it in their sleep (while thinking of my friends), and preteen boys are doing it in their sleep, maybe there’s something we could learn from our subconscious.

Sex is important, even if you’re playing solitaire instead of high-stakes poker. Don’t wait until your body does it for you.

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