I know that 99 percent of straight men would choose me over some 50-year-old lady. But I had to fall for the one guy that would give the 50-year-old a chance.

“He is a sensitive, intelligent musician with a convertible. From the beginning, he seemed too good to be true. But I pushed my doubts out of my head. Maybe I was finally getting what I deserved. Little did I know what I had coming.

He told me he needed to concentrate on his band more because they were about to go on tour. I always admired his dedication to his craft. He promised me there was no one else. I believed him. The break up was amicable. We promised to be friends and, at that time, I believed that too.

As a friend, I went to support him in a show later in week. His band was about to begin their set when my roommate nudged me, “Did you know he is living with a 50-year-old woman?”

I blankly stared at her trying to digest what she had said, like it was code for something. Then it got worse. My roommate pointed her out. I could understand if the woman was a Demi Moore-era Mrs. Robinson. But that was not the case.

I do not believe that just because I am younger I should be valued more. I just do not have the baggage of being a single mother of three. Now I know that 99 percent of straight men would choose me over some 50-year-old lady. But I had to fall for the one guy that would give the 50-year-old a chance.

This is worse than if he had told me he was gay. I could have lived with the fact he just come out of the closet. If he came out, it would be out of my control. I cannot change his sexual orientation.

I agonize, however, on what I could have done differently to make him stay with me. My main concern is that it feels like it is my personality that lacks and that is why I got the boot. It makes me question what I can bring to a relationship, if anything.

It is important to notice that I did not just go off of the gossip my roommate told me. I confronted him with the information. He denied the accusations. But when he tells me he gives her rides to her apartment every day after she is done with work, or when he spends Christmas with her family, I think he just does want the confrontation of my reaction to what he did to me.

I suppose it can end up being a win-win situation. I will find comfort in the fact that I can easily find someone out there who will not leave me for a 50-year-old woman. And he can find comfort in the fact that he cannot get his girlfriend pregnant.”

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