Any action involving latex, nudity, sweat and bodily functions is going to induce some laughable situations.

Every sexually active person on the planet has had a moment of mortification during an intimate experience. The best way to deal with it, I say, is to laugh it off.

Have you ever gotten stuck in an article of clothing when trying to remove it in a sexy manner? Perhaps you left a necklace on over a turtleneck, and you were in turn stuck with a shirt over your face, incapable of getting it off and unequipped or unwilling to put it back on.

Laugh about it, ask for help. The request will most likely come off as, “mmmshtukkkelpmmeeepleeeese!” followed by an explosion of laughter.

Laughter is infectious — if you can laugh at yourself, others will laugh with you. What is funnier than sex? Be it a first sexual encounter between two people, or a time-tested relationship, there will always be moments where laughter is the most appropriate reaction.

Have you ever tried to put a condom on inside out? It doesn’t work. Not only does it not work, but in a dimly lit room, it is impossible to tell why. When the realization hits you, this is a moment to declare your folly so you can both get a good chuckle.

We have all been in the awkward position to bring up the (very necessary) subject of protection. I have discovered a way to make it fun and funny. I have colored condoms (thanks, Planned Parenthood) in red, blue, purple, yellow and orange. I also have a couple that are strawberry flavored, but those are more for show than for use. (Sugar is not kind to genitals.)

When the time comes for the use of a prophylactic, I whip out one and ask if the color is OK. “Will blue work for you?”

Sometimes I offer a choice of a few different colors, just to introduce variety. I often get a relieved grin, sometimes a chuckle. It is all about laughter relieving the tension of the sexual encounter.

Sex should be fun and funny. Suddenly realizing that you have to urinate just when you get going is always awkward. No one can enjoy sex while their bladder is screaming at them. I like to laugh about it, sometimes making a joke about the likelihood of a golden shower if a break isn’t taken. Also, my apartment is freakishly small, so I find it funny to excuse myself, as one can see directly into my bathroom from my bed.

A lover I am thinking of encountering with more frequency said to me recently, after he had been over for a couple minutes, that he was going to take his pants off, but I shouldn’t get any funny ideas. This was a funny and clever way to break the sexual ice, as we both knew why he was over.

He was also wearing boxers with pictures of little devils on them, with a scrawl reading, “Handsome Devil.” This is cute, and funny, and it worked to cut the tension.

Some people claim that there is nothing funny about something as beautiful and intimate as sex. I say that any action involving latex, nudity, sweat and bodily functions is going to induce some laughable situations.

The best way to enjoy sex is not to take it too seriously. Just make sure that when you have sexual intercourse, you use a prophylactic.

(Try saying it just like that the next time you bring up safe sex — it’s bound to get a good laugh.)

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