“When I'm interested in a girl I can make them laugh, but suddenly I'm a entertainer/clown -- not a potential suiter. that ends up ruining me”
Tyler

Muscle-clad hunks of steel dominate the imagery of hope and expectation in a man's life. Does a woman really want the callous exterior that only melts off under the bedroom covers? In the relationship market, the “bad boy with a heart of gold” appears to be the bestselling version of the male coming of the societal assembly line. Roaring out of women's dreams on his motorcycle carrying an aura of apathy toward everything but himself — this man makes the women swoon and the men cower. The attraction to his disregard possibly stems from the human attraction to what we can't have. Women relish the overbearing challenge — breakthrough the icy personality to extract a warm love he didn't know he could experience. Right? Assistant A&E Editor Tyler Gaskill (ChunkyT1983) and UWM Post Photo Editor Sara DeKeuster (SaraBara18) try to find out what straight people really want from one another.

ChunkyT1983: What is your answer to my question? "Why not go for the guy who's already able to express emotions, or love?"
SaraBara18: umm, because it's too easy. and sometimes, it's fake
ChunkyT1983: Ok, then why do you want to have to work at a guy
SaraBara18: to me it doesn't seem 'Real' for a guy to just completely luv everything about you...if we lived in a perfect world, wouldn't it be boring
ChunkyT1983: I guess I just don't get why when a guy is in touch with his emotions (not to the point of being a sissy) a woman looks RIGHT over him
SaraBara18: it seems fake
ChunkyT1983: So then girls assume a guy who can express feelings is fake?
SaraBara18: well...i don't know…they just seem like they are trying too hard
ChunkyT1983: Ah, so in order to get attention a guy has to seem callous at first... or rather, to have A CHANCE, he must be cold
SaraBara18: haha, i don't know..really…i'm no expert
ChunkyT1983: Well you don't have to be. I'm just trying to figure out what goes on in the often times seemingly MAD brains of women. You said "no" he doesn't have to be cold to get attention, but he can't be too in touch with his emotions either... so what is it... what does a woman look for at first
SaraBara18: ok, one of the first things i notice about a guy (after I give him the up-down look)...is if he can make me laugh...so, if a guy suddenly approaches me and wants to talk about his feelings or whatever..or is super emotional...i'm going to be like WTF? Issue maybe?
ChunkyT1983: often times when I'm interested in a girl I can make them laugh, but suddenly I'm a entertainer/clown – not a potential suiter. that ends up ruining me
SaraBara18: i guess, i like the emotional aspect to be suttle....but if a guy is always reasuring me that 'he likes me/loves me' it can be overbearing..
ChunkyT1983: Can humor win you over even if the person is ugly?
SaraBara18: oh definitely...it makes them cuter..but then you could end up with the 'you’re like a brother' problem..which is a whole other story
ChunkyT1983: Yikes... I had the "you're like a brother" line thrown in my face... does that mean I'm ugly?
SaraBara18: I prefer more intimate ways of affection...like him squeezing my side, or brushing my hair out of my face...oh god, my ex use to do that all the time..and it made me melt..
ChunkyT1983: HAA!! is your monitor steaming up over there?
SaraBara18: yeah it is
ChunkyT1983: need to take a break?
SaraBara18: let me see...what else..
ChunkyT1983: I don't know... why are women and men constantly in TOTAL confusion with one another?
SaraBara18: because it's fun
ChunkyT1983: NO IT'S NOT!!!!! I hate games
SaraBara18: no not games
ChunkyT1983: That's all single life is... One endless cat and mouse chase
SaraBara18: i guess..but I think dating as many people as possible is good..you get to meet everyone..but not everyone should be a potential mate. You will know, when you know…but not gettting any action...now that is a problem
ChunkyT1983: But doesn't that mentality also force you to overlook who ever your first batch of mates are... what if someone in the first batch is "the one"
SaraBara18: he will come back..if it was meant to be it will
ChunkyT1983: I hate all the rhetoric that surrounds the ideology of "the one" It's all circular logic it seems.
SaraBara18: yeah, it's all bullshit really
ChunkyT1983: Are you a believer in "the one"
SaraBara18: sometimes i would like to..i think you think...every girl you date is the one: (sorry, im not trying to be mean)
ChunkyT1983: What makes you think that
SaraBara18: no, it just seems like you would get easily attached. fuck, i'm never getting married.
ChunkyT1983: your line "Fuck, im never getting married" is almost too perfect of an ending. just kind of capsilates the whole feeling of being single in the straight world
SaraBara18: yeah
ChunkyT1983: that constant overbearing depression of facing life single forever because straight societies deems it necessary that we find SOMEONE. Although, I honestly just like having a companion. Maybe it's programed into me, but I don't care 'cause I'm not about to deny my desires because I recognize someone installed them in me
SaraBara18: sorry i'm on the phone...hang on
ChunkyT1983: k
SaraBara18: ok my mom won't shut up..
ChunkyT1983: ha that's their job
SaraBara18: so yeah, and it's really depressing when it seems like everyone else has a bf and you don't
SaraBara18: like there is something wrong w/ you..and the worst is when someone says, "you don't have a bf?? Why, your a great girl/boy." It's like ok, don't feel sorry for me and not everyone has to have one!
ChunkyT1983: Do you think that's more because we've been programed to desire a SOLE companion, or do you think it's a natural human instinct to desire somONE
SaraBara18: I think the media really plays it up. Because all we have ever seen are happy endings..where the boy wins the girl...or the girl finally finds love.
ChunkyT1983: the media perpetuates the feeling of loineleiness
ChunkyT1983: as you can see... I can't spell
SaraBara18: And that's how all chick flicks are, so us women are always told 'it will happen'. So after we leave the movie, you feel hopeful for probably 15 mins. and then it's back to reality. But I do think it is an instinct also.
ChunkyT1983: HA!!! Chick flicks always make me feel worse. I feel like I just watch a sucess story that I have yet to acomplish... so then I leave saying, "Why haven't I had that kind of luck!?"
SaraBara18: haha, so it has a reverse effect on men
ChunkyT1983: people love seeing how someone makes that change from stranger to lover... 'cause it's so hard to do
SaraBara18: but i rarely let people in..i'm a strange girl
ChunkyT1983: There's a difference between letting someone know you, and letting them understand you So lots of people KNOW me but few really understand me
ChunkyT1983: but I think EVERYONE feels no one understands them
SaraBara18: true

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