Dear Anna,

My boyfriend never opens his eyes when we're having sex. It makes me feel bad, like I'm not enough and he is imagining other women. What do you think?

*A.*

Have you ever had one of those fruit tarts from Sendiks? Maybe not, but think of what you would do if you had a really, really good piece of dessert. You would savor it, and since that piece of dessert is so good, you might just close your eyes.

I say don’t give him a hard time. He's doing what comes naturally to him. Just think of yourself as his dessert.

Another thing: you’re the one who seems preoccupied. I'm assuming that the entire time you're have sex, you’re thinking whether or not he's thinking about someone else. It's sex, enjoy it, and maybe you should try closing your own eyes next time.

Anna

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